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New year, new hopes, new clichés

Note: I started writing this post 5 days ago. Then I stopped. I have a lot of half-written posts in my Saved Drafts folder.

If someone were to measure my 2016 by the amount of blog posts I’ve written, it would be kind to say my year was boring. I’m almost embarrassed to admit I only wrote a mere 8 posts, the majority of which include some level of apology for not writing.

The thing is, if I’ve learned anything in 2016, it was to not apologize.

My 2016 New Year’s resolution was something along the lines of finding peace with those surrounding me. I resolved to care less about what others thought or did, and to focus more on finding my own peace. Truthfully, I was hurting at this time last year. Despite it being one of the happiest times in my life as a newlywed, it was also one of the most isolating times in my professional life. Teaching isn’t always easy, especially when you find yourself surrounded by hormonal, angst-filled teenagers daily. The emotions of my students drained me a bit last year, and my need to escape from them spilled into my need to escape from my peers. Feelings were felt, and I did what I do best– I avoided people. In the Spring, I actively began making changes to my professional life to find happiness again in the profession. While I am not in the place I envisioned myself six months ago, I am honestly much happier with myself as an educator than I was this time last year. Heck, I’m the happiest I’ve been in a long time in so many aspects of my life.

So, it’s time to focus on 2017.

A lot of my Facebook friends have been sharing their words for the year. They’ve all chosen words to represent what they foresee focusing their next year on, words like “determination,” “hope,” or even “focus.” While I love my friends, a lot of their words have been surrounded by fluffy, feel-good words of optimism and excitement. My sarcastic self can’t handle that level of happiness so, instead, my word will be a realistic one: try.

“I’ll try not to hit snooze 8 times.”

“Let me try that solution before whining.”

“Hey, can I try your drink? I thought about ordering it.”

“I try to walk away and I stumble…”

“Try me, bitch. Just try me.”

I’m ready to try again in 2017, and hopefully one of the things I’ll be trying is writing again. I miss it.

Until then… here’s what I’ve been discovering more of this past year: Snapchat. So far, Faceswapping with Adele really has been the highlight of 2017.

Adele and I are one. I'm on snapchat as, big surprise, @thegingersass.

Adele and I are one. I’m on snapchat as, big surprise, @thegingersass.

New year, new goals

I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions. “Resolution” sounds like a solution to something that needs to be fixed, like a crumbling marriage or a recipe that doesn’t have enough kick to it.

Last year, my life needed fixing. For the first time in quite a few years, I made a resolution. I resolved to not go on any more terrible first dates from Internet dating sites. It worked out because I had one last internet first date last NYE, and I’ve been inseparable from V ever since.

This year, I’m happier than I can put into words. Everything seems to have fallen into place, and I couldn’t think of a single thing to change even if I tried.

So, for this year, in lieu of making a resolution and fixing something that’s not broken (if it ain’t broke don’t fix it!), I’m making 3 simple goals. If I achieve them, great. If I don’t, oh well. Sometimes goals are achieved, and sometimes goals change. That’s the beauty of human nature.

1. Blog everyday.

My friend Casey blogged everyday last year, and, in her words, it ruled. I was inspired by the VQChat the other day, and I think I will at least attempt to blog everyday of 2014.

2. Save money for our wedding.


It’s 2014 which means HOLY CRAP WE GET MARRIED NEXT YEAR. We’ve officially set a date, picked a venue, and found an officiant so it’s time to get cooking! (And not just for the bucket of fried chicken I owe Nina either.)

3. Write a book.


With my new latte maker, I’m hoping to find the motivation– and caffeination level– required to actually bring the book idea I’ve had for a while to life. The idea has been met with excitement with some of the fabulous connections I’ve head the pleasure of meeting this past year or so, and I really hope I can finally make it happen.

Do you have any goals for 2014? Or even resolutions?

#23til23: Expecting the unexpected


Today I didn’t do much of anything. I slept in. I became glued to the news coverage of the ferry crash in Manhattan this morning. I picked up some paperwork to complete, and I went grocery shopping. I treated myself to some “fancy cheese” and pita chips, and I left the grocery store with a smile on my face.

Then I realized the smile on my face wasn’t because of the cheese, although that definitely was a factor, but because I am actually happy for the first time in awhile. Actually, that’s a lie– I’ve been happy. But, for the first time in awhile, I am happy with every single aspect of my life.

So far, 2013 has been quite the journey. I rang in the year with the people who gave me life– my parents– and my dog, and it has been a whirlwind of happiness since. #23til23 began. I have found myself enjoying the little things, planning big adventures, and overall really appreciating every day since I began this journey.

You know what else I’ve enjoyed?

Seeing the love and support of my friends in my happiness.

I went “Facebook official” on Sunday night that I was in a relationship, and you would’ve thought the world exploded with the amount of love and support I received from my friends on Facebook. Then I tweeted the following, and I received even more love from my twitter followers and blogging friends.

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All of this is still very new to me, as I was just bitching about being single at Christmastime a few weeks ago! (Oddly enough, that’s one of my most viewed posts…)

My girlfriend, who shall be known as V from henceforth on, is genuinely sweet, kind, caring, and wonderful. She treats me like a princess, which is something I’m not used to. The fact that she actually cares about me, is happy for me when I succeed, and is very supportive of me as a blogger and writer BLOWS MY MIND. I actually texted her asking if I could mention her on my blog because she makes me happy, and she responded, “I’m flattered actually. Thanks for asking, and yes, that’s fine with me!” A moment later, she added, “Flattered may not even be the right word… honored? Blown away? lol”

GingerSass has become my baby, and the fact that I have a girlfriend that supports my baby and encourages me with its growth and development is mindblowing to me. It’s also mindblowing to have had someone so wonderful come into my life so unexpectedly. So, for today’s #23til23 moment, I’m totally going all braggy about my gf.

Also, she has two really adorable dogs who have quickly become my best friends.

Life is good.

What else could a girl ask for, expect maybe some more #23til23 challenges? 😉