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Occasionally some of my old posts get comments on them. Most times these comments are spam, but otherwise they’re from someone who actually is trying to be engaging.

The other morning I saw I had 3 comments from one person on a snarky post I did on why I’m too old to go clubbing anymore.

Now, I definitely thought long and about whether or not I wanted to even waste my time and post about this.

Then, I realized I needed to.

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It is NEVER okay to be intolerant of others. While my original post was whiny about being too old to be in a club, I hope it was not construed as me objectifying club-goers or my LGBT brothers and sisters. There are plenty of people who are toolbags whose sexuality has nothing to do with their clubbing behaviors.

When you comment on a blog of someone you do not know, do not judge them. Do not make assumptions based off of misconceptions and stereotypes. Do not justify your assumptions by apologizing and saying you thought someone was another assumption or stereotype.

Intolerance is the root of so many misunderstandings in the world. Do not be intolerant of others– open your minds to possibilities.

For the love of so much, please do not bring your intolerance to my blog. I may be a snarky piece of work, but I am a snarky piece of work who will gladly listen to others before making judgements. Leave your intolerance at the door, and know that this blog is welcoming to people of all races, religions, socio economic classes, backgrounds, and sexual orientations. Whether you’re a “straight girl” or a “toolbag lesbian,” I welcome you with open arms, as long as you have an open mind.



One year ago, a chick I’d gone out on a first date with a week prior– and couldn’t stop talking to in the days that followed– asked me to be her girlfriend in such a cute, flustered way that I actually wasn’t sure if I was in a relationship until later that night when she texted me that she was glad I was her girlfriend.

A year later, I’m proud to call that chick my fiancée.

Since I’m all about being fair, I’ve been thinking of counter-proposing to V since she asked me to marry her in October. I’ve made various plans, but they each fell apart.

So, tonight, after she was stuck in 2.5 hours worth of traffic and we had to change our dinner plans, I said screw it and decided to wing it. After we ate our meal at a local Irish pub, I told V I would love her until the end of time, and I pulled out a fancy watch. Afterall, every girl deserves a fancy piece of engagement jewelry. She said yes, although I kind of suspected that would be her answer.


Happy anniversary, honey. I will love you til the end of time.

Engaygement Questions

"Congrats! You're engayged! Now let me ask you a ton of personal, inappropriate questions!"

“Congrats! You’re engayged! Now let me ask you a ton of personal, inappropriate questions!”

Now that I’ve been engayged for a whopping 2 months, most of the people in my life know that I’m engayged. However, when a new person finds out about my news, I’m usually asked a series of– dare I say it– stupid or inappropriate questions about my engaygement. Now, some of these questions are typical of any enga(y)gement, but there are a few that seem to be focusing on the fact that there are 2 brides in my engaygement story.

Here are the top 10 Enga(y)gement questions I’ve regularly been asked:

  1. Do your parents know?

    No. I’ve decided to not tell my parents one of the biggest pieces of news in my entire life.(Yes, they do know.)

  2. Are your parents happy for you?

    No. They think it’s horrible that I’ve found someone who loves me, treats me like a queen, and is an all around amazing person to spend my life with. It really upsets them.(They’re super excited! V actually asked for their blessings before she proposed and they’re very happy to be welcoming her into our family.)

  3. Who proposed to who? Was it weird?

    V proposed to me. Our engaygement was a little weird, but only because I was being super romantic and saying how there were dead Mobster bodies in the moonlit water front V was proposing to me by. The whole girlfriend proposing to me thing wasn’t weird because– imagine this– it was romantic and I love her.

  4. Who gets the bridal shower?

    When there are two brides, I imagine the brides get the bridal shower. Also…a lot of people are now choosing to do “Wedding Showers” where both parties are invited to the shower.

  5. Will both of you wear a dress?

    If you’re asking me this you probably haven’t met my fiancée, who hasn’t worn a dress in years. We’ll both wear what we’re comfortable wearing, which will most likely be a frilly, lacy dress for me and a slick looking tux for V.

  6. Did you get engayged because it’s legal (in New Jersey)  now? Did you know it’s legal now?

    We got engayged because V got down on one knee, asked me to marry her, and I said yes because I love her.Yes, I did know it’s legal now. It was just a coincidence that we can now be considered human beings and legally get married in our home state.

  7. Have you set a date?

    Okay, this is the one question I always have an answer to: Yes. We both want a fall wedding, and we both want to be able to actually afford our wedding, so, as long as we can officially book it at the venue, we’re aiming to get married on Sunday, November 1st, 2015.

  8. Are there only going to be girls in your wedding?

    Well, believe it or not, lesbians actually know people who do not identify as females. For example, both V & I have brothers who will be a part of our wedding. Also, our wedding will consist of “our people,” not the bridesmaids or groomsmen.

  9. Can you get married in a church? Will you get married in a church? Can you even find a pastor who will marry you?

    I’m sure we can get married in a church. Can you tie your shoe?We won’t get married in a church, but mainly because we found our dream venue where we can hold both our ceremony and our reception.

    I’m sure we can find a pastor who would marry us. We even have a Deacon friend who has offered to, although we would like her to be a part of our wedding party.

  10. Who’s going to have the babies?
    How are you going to have babies?
    When are you going to have babies?

    Oy vey. I hate the baby question. WE’LL PROCREATE WHEN WE WANT, PEOPLE.I’ll probably pop out the spawn.

    I’ll probably get knocked up.

    I’ll probably have spawn after 9 months of incubation in my womb, give or take.

    If this doesn’t work out, we’ll look at other options. We both want to have kids one day, but, when you’re a lesbian, these things take time and planning.

What questions were you constantly asked when you became engaged or engayged??