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10 Minute Musings #4

30 minutes

Okay, so here’s something they don’t tell you about being a bridesmaid: you really need to remember to get a dress (and a date) more than a month before the wedding. This week, I panicked and realized that my original date couldn’t go to a wedding with me at the end of the month, that I still needed to find a strapless knee length black dress (easier said than done!), that I needed to find strappy black heels for my size 11 feet, and that I hadn’t lost the 10 pounds I had wanted to lose before the wedding. Oops.

Being the dear friend that she is, the bride-to-be helped me brainstorm a list of people to ask to be my date. She also inspired me to create a Pinterest account to make my dress searching easier, and she suggested places and websites to order shoes from. Still… I started panicking. Realizing you’re The Single Lesbian Bridesmaid at one of your best friend’s weddings makes you feel quite a bit single, awkward, and have a miniature quarter life crisis. (This is only further emphasized when you are stressing about meaningless grad school assignments, don’t know where you are living in the Fall, and are trying to find some source of income for the summer.)

Lucky for me, I decided to blow off my school-related responsibilities and be productive this morning before class. I scheduled an appointment with David’s Bridal, printed out a list of my favorite dresses from their website, and got to the store 15 minutes before my 11am appointment. (Little known fact: David’s Bridal opens at 11. There’s no need to worry about running late. -__-) When the doors opened, somehow or another the woman who greeted me THOUGHT I WAS THE BRIDE. It didn’t say that on the paperwork for my appointment so I don’t know what she was smoking. Anywho, she really thought I was a bride coming to the store to pick out dresses for my wedding. She started asking me when the wedding was, where it was located, etc. and I could see panic creeping up on her face. Luckily, the worker who was assigned to me understood me when I said “I’m here to buy a bridesmaid’s dress for my friend Taylor’s wedding.” She found me DOZENS of dresses that fit the criteria, and I imagined myself as a princess on “Say Yes to the Dress.” She was really helpful, snarky, and said exactly what I needed to hear. After only an hour, I found a dress that was perfect, didn’t need to be ordered, and something that got complete strangers in the store to say “Wow, you look really cute in that!” (That’s always a super duper feeling by the way.) She also found me the PERFECT bra to wear with it, which, when you have boobs like mine, is really important.

My dress. Blonde chick not included.

I thanked her profusely, went out to my car, and realized that I only had to do two more wedding things: find a pair of heels that wouldn’t turn my 5’10” self into godzilla, and find a date. Size 11 heels are hard to find, but somehow that task seemed easier than finding a date. I was brainstorming all the way to class this afternoon, and when I turned on my macbook and saw my poefy’s face on my background it hit me: Poefy should be my date! She’s pretty, I’m pretty, we make an amazing fake couple, and she’s one of the few people I could tolerate in a long car trip. (Backstory: Poefy= Ladina, my amazing friend/ Poetry Wife from poetry class. I heart her.) Sooo, I sent her a facebook message because I didn’t have cellphone reception in my basement classroom, and then proceeded to tweet her like crazy from my GingerSass twitter account. (If it looks like a Z-list celesbian is asking you out via Twitter, how can you say no???) Well, over twenty tweets and a trending topic of “#whyDinashouldbemyweddingdate” later, and her responding to each and every reason, SHE SAID YES! I’m so elated to be going to Taylor’s wedding with one of my favorite people in the world, and to not be the dateless bridesmaid at the wedding. I didn’t know appearance mattered to me so much until I realized I might be going to the wedding alone. Sometimes you just need a friend who can tolerate Taylor Swift (who, by the way, is who I’ve been listening to and resisting the urge to sing and dance along to this entire writing time), weirdness, and is really sassy and amazing. I’m so glad I have that in my poefy. (And I feel like an idiot that I hadn’t thought of her before today.) Seriously, I love Dina for saving my life and being my better half when I need her. She’s the best.

Poefy & I. Follow her on Twitter at @L_W0rd

Now the only thing I need to do is find a pair of strappy heels to go with my dress. I think I’m going to go shoe shopping in between a meeting and class tomorrow. I feel so relieved to know that everything is finally coming together… I can only imagine how Taylor feels planning this whole thing! Oy. For once, I’m happy to say I’m “always the bridesmaid, never the bride.” I’d freak out if I had to plan a wedding on top of doing everything for grad school right now too. Taylor, you get soooo much credit girl. You deserve to kick back, relax, and bask in the sun on a glorious honeymoon after all this madness is done. I’m so proud of you for putting this whole thing together while balancing senior year of college, applying to doctoral programs, and being a RA. You really are a wonderwoman, and I cannot wait to celebrate you becoming a Mrs. in 3.5 weeks!!! :)

It only seems fitting that Taylor Swift’s “Mine” just came on my itunes. To kill time for the rest of this writing exercise, I’m typing up the lyrics. <3

You were in college working part time waitin’ tables
Left a small town, never looked back
I was a flight risk with a fear of fallin’
Wondering why we bother with love if it never lasts

I say “Can you believe it?”
As we’re lying on the couch
The moment, I can see it.
Yes, yes, I can see it now

Do you remember, we were sitting there, by the water?
You put your arm around me for the first time
You made a rebel of a careless man’s careful daughter
You are the best thing that’s ever been mine

Flash forward and we’re taking on the world together
And there’s a drawer of my things at your place
You learn my secrets and you figure out why I’m guarded
You say we’ll never make my parents’ mistakes

But we got bills to pay
We got nothing figured out
When it was hard to take
Yes, yes, I thought about

Do you remember, we were sitting there, by the water?
You put your arm around me for the first time
You made a rebel of a careless man’s careful daughter
You are the best thing that’s ever been mine

Do you remember all the city lights on the water?
You saw me start to believe for the first time
You made a rebel of a careless man’s careful daughter
You are the best thing that’s ever been mine

Oh, oh, oh

And I remember that fight
Two-thirty AM
Yes, everything was slipping right out of our hands
I ran out crying and you followed me out into the street
Braced myself for the goodbye
‘cause that’s all I’ve ever known
And you took me by surprise
You said, “I’ll never leave you alone”

You said, “I remember how we felt sitting by the water
And every time I look at you, it’s like the first time
I fell in love with a careless man’s careful daughter
She is the best thing that’s ever been mine”

You made a rebel of a careless man’s careful daughter
You are the best thing that’s ever been mine
Do you believe it?
Going to make it now
I can see it
I can see it now

Gosh I love Taylor Swift.