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Happy early birthday to us

Dear Ellen,

Happy early birthday to us! I turn 26 on the 26th tomorrow; you turn 58. (Normally I wouldn’t put a lady’s age on blast like that, but, let’s be real– a quick Google search tells the world your age.) My students have excitedly been telling me my birthday this year is my “golden birthday.” Do you remember turning 26 on the 26th?

You live out in California so your birthday celebration is probably a little different than mine. You had sun shine the weekend prior to your birthday; I had a blizzard, a cancelled Broadway show, and digging out of our building to walk our dog.

photo courtesy of Popography http://popography.org/

photo courtesy of Popography http://popography.org/

Oh! This reminds me. A lot has changed since I last wrote to you. I started teaching a college writing class at work. In April, V & I moved in together. Her dog, a rescue pit bull named Charity, became mine. (Congrats on “Kid” by the way!) The summer was a weird one; I went through some schtuff, taught summer school, and ended up at BlogHer15. On November 1st, V became my wife. We enjoyed a beautiful wedding, surrounded by family and friends, and then jetted off to Orlando, where we had a relaxing few days at Disney and Universal (the Wizarding World of Harry Potter!!) . In a nutshell, a lot has changed, but a lot remains the same.

Last year, for my 25th birthday, I had a book drive to build my classroom library. I wasn’t that into the idea of going out and getting crazy, and I still don’t feel like going out to celebrate. I really enjoyed spending this past weekend being snowed in with my wife, playing Scrabble, baking, and just spending quality time together with my little family.

I’m always trying to grow my classroom library (I have an actual classroom this year so I no longer have to limit myself to a rolling library!!) so, if by some miracle you actually see this, please feel free to donate a book or two.

Happy birthday, Ellen. I hope 58 is everything you dream it to be. Send your love to Portia from V & I, and wish her a happy Australia Day.

Love,
Kailynn
Your birthday buddy who has written you a letter every year since turning 18

Why I’m okay with not having met my 2014 goals

The concept of new years resolutions usually taunts me, primarily because I forget my resolutions within 3 days.

Last year, I made 3 (seemingly) simple goals:

  1. Blog everyday.
  2. Save money for our wedding.
  3. Write a book.

I managed to blog every day through April 30th. Then, I realized I was burnt out. Trying to juxtapose daily blogging with my first year of teaching, with a sprinkling of wedding planning, was overwhelming. (I’m getting overwhelmed just thinking about it!)

I managed to put aside a bit less than 1 paycheck a month for our wedding. This was a BIG DEAL, especially since I get paid bi-weekly! I’m grateful to still be living at home rent-free, and to have had the opportunity to get so far ahead in saving for our wedding during 2014.

I’ve written layouts for books. I’ve managed to get a few dozen pages done. I’ve written a few children’s books. I just haven’t shared them with anybody.

Even though I didn’t make my 2014 goals a concrete reality, I feel like a success. With time, goals and dreams change. So does motivation to achieve goals. It’s not necessary to feel terrible if you don’t meet your goals.

So, in 2015, I’m making a simpler set of goals:

  1. Be happy (or happier!).
    2014 was a phenomenal year, but it was also full of stress. While I know this coming year will have its own stressors, I’m determined to be happier. Whether this means eating healthier and losing weight, trying new things, or picking up a paintbrush for the first time in a few years, I don’t know. I just know stress isn’t worth it.
  2. Acclimate to domesticated life with Val.
    Val & I are moving into her dad’s condo when he retires in the Spring. Other than my time with Res Life and college, I’ve never lived away from home. (My age is showing!) Moving in together and acclimating to our domesticated life will be a change for both of us– and Val’s dog–but I’m looking forward to it… especially since our condo is right next door to a local mall. 🙂
  3. Enjoy my wedding day.
    Our wedding is now 10 months away. While this year will have its fair share of stress and planning, I’m looking forward to dancing the night away with my Mrs! I know I’ll stress over stupid things like ribbons or floral arrangements on our special day, but I also know I want to remember the day as one of the most fun days of our lives!

    303 days to go!

    303 days to go!

Happy 2015, y’all. I hope it’s fabulous.

Smart phone, smart relationship

I joined the smart phone world on December 29th, 2012, exactly 2 days before my first date with V.

I used my new phone as an excuse as to why I wasn’t texting back right away. I’m pretty sure my text said something along the lines of, “Oh, sorry! Just got a new phone, I’m still figuring it out!”

I was scared of what the new possibilities of going on a first date might hold, especially on New Year’s Eve. I remember specifically making plans to get coffee and walk around the mall at 2pm because that was a casual, committal, non-intense date time for a holiday.

I was terrified of getting hurt.

Two years later, I’ve never been more grateful for the experiences I’ve had with Val. So many of them have been recorded on my iphone4s that the idea of changing phones actually seems kind of heartbreaking to me.

Our first picture together, added to our history through my smart phone. :)

Our first picture together, added to our history through my smart phone. 🙂

Unfortunately, my phone has decided to stop charging. So, the upgrade I’m due for is necessary.

My new phone, which I’ll be getting on Thursday or Friday, is reflective of so much growth and change coming in the new year. I have 1.5 more days to be able to say “I’m getting married next year” instead of “I’ll be getting married later this year.” I’m turning 25 at the end of January. (!!!) I’ll be teaching a new class starting on Monday. Val & I will be moving into a condo together in the Spring.

I’m so glad I joined the smartphone world 2 years ago, and even gladder that I took a chance with Val.

If my past two years are any indication of what the next two will be, I can’t wait!